Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count

Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count


Published on Dec 4, 2013

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There is nothing more frightening than the moment we expose our ideas to the world. Author and vulnerability researcher Brené Brown shows us how to deal with the critics and our own self-doubt by refusing to “armor up” and shut ourselves off. “Not caring what people think,” she says, “is its own kind of hustle.”

Instead we must “reserve a seat” for the critics and our own self-doubt. “Tell them, I see you, I hear you, but I’m going to do this anyway.”

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2:14 “Design is a function of connection. Nothing is more then vulnerable then creativity. What is art if it is not love?”
3:11 Perspiration from fear
6:48 Theodore Roosevelt quote/passage that changed my life: “It’s not the critic who counts…”
7:39 Everything i know about vulnerability: it is not about winning or losing, it’s about showing up and being seen
7:53 “This is who I want to be I want to create. I want to make thing that didn’t exist before touched them.”
8:14 One guarantee: you will get you ass kicked
8:39 “If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m no interested in your opinion”
9:41 This is where we sweat
10:17 Fear, self doubt, comparison, anxiety
11:06 When you armor up, you shut yourself off from everything that you do an love
11:40 Without vulnerability you cannot create
12:41 Know your critics are there, know what they’re going to say
12:57 Shame, scarcity and comparison
15:20 “When we stop caring what people thing we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people thing we lose our capacity to be vulnerable.”
16:38 If you’re going to spend your life in the ring/showing up, you’re going to need: 1) Clarity of values
17:18 2) Have person in your life thats going to pick you up
18:14 “People who have the most courage and vulnerability are the ones who are very clear about who the critics are and reserve seats for them.”
19:32 One of these seats needs to be reserved for you

About Brené Brown

Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past twelve years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. Her groundbreaking research has been featured on PBS, NPR, CNN, The Washington Post, and The New York Times.

Brené is the author of the #1 New York Times Bestseller, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the way we Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (Gotham, 2012). In Daring Greatly Brené dispels the cultural myth that vulnerability is weakness and argues that it is, in truth, our most accurate measure of courage. Fast Company Magazine recently named Daring Greatly one of the best business books of 2012. Brené’s 2010 TEDx Houston talk, The Power of Vulnerability, is one of the top ten most viewed TED talks on, with over 6 million viewers.

Brené is also the author of The Gifts of Imperfection (2010), I Thought It Was Just Me (2007), and Connections (2009). She lives in Houston with her husband, Steve, and their two children, Ellen and Charlie.

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Living Brave with Brene Brown and Oprah Winfrey

Living Brave with Brene Brown and Oprah Winfrey


Published on November 23, 2015

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The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown

The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown


Uploaded on Jan 3, 2011 Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.

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Brene Brown – Boundaries, Empathy, and Compassion

Brene Brown – Boundaries, Empathy, and Compassion



Published March 7, 2016

I do not own any rights to this interview. I could not find this exact interview anywhere on YouTube, so I decided to upload it. This was found on the Facebook page: The Work of the People. This is an interview with scholar, author, and public speaker, Brene Brown. In this interview, she speaks about setting boundaries, her B-I-G idea, the belief of compassion, and the act of empathy.

Two Most Dangerous Words in Your Vocabulary

Dr. Brené Brown: The Two Most Dangerous Words in Your Vocabulary | Super Soul Sunday | OWN

Published on Mar 17, 2013

Dr. Brené Brown started her research on vulnerability, worthiness and shame six months before September 11, 2001, and says our culture has been marked by deep fear since then. That fear, she says, has now shifted from external events to the fear that we as individuals are simply not enough. Watch to find out why, Dr. Brown says, those two words lead us to shut down emotionally and spiritually.

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Brené Brown on Blame




Published on Feb 3, 2015

You are probably a bit of a blamer – most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker Brené Brown considers why we blame others, how it sabotages our relationships, and why we desperately need to move beyond this toxic behaviour.

Voice: Dr Brené Brown
Animation: Katy Davis AKA Gobblynne
Production and Editing: Al Francis-Sears and Abi Stephenson

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Brené Brown Top 21 Tweet-Tweets

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Embracing Vulnerability

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The Courage to be Vulnerable – Tami Simon interviews Dr. Brené Brown

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The Price of Invulnerability

The Price of Invulnerability: Brené Brown at TEDxKC

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Uploaded on Oct 12, 2010

TEDxKC talk synopsis: In our anxious world, we often protect ourselves by closing off parts of our lives that leave us feeling most vulnerable. Yet invulnerability has a price. When we knowingly or unknowingly numb ourselves to what we sense threatens us, we sacrifice an essential tool for navigating uncertain times — joy. This talk will explore how and why fear and collective scarcity has profoundly dangerous consequences on how we live, love, parent, work and engage in relationships — and how simple acts can restore our sense of purpose and meaning.

Speaker: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work where she has spent the past 10 years studying courage, shame and authenticity. She is the Behavioral Health Scholar-in-Residence at the Council on Alcohol and Drugs and has written several books on her research.

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