Domestic Violence Resources

Domestic Violence Resources

 Life Span Domestic Violence Agency    http://life-span.org/

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence   http://www.ncadv.org/

Women’s Shelters Locator

http://www.womenshelters.org/zip.php?zip=60068

The WINGS Program (Women in Need Growing Stronger)

http://wingsprogram.com/

Life Span Inc

P.O. Box 445

Des Plaines IL 60016

Business#: 708-824-0382

Hotline/Crisis: 708-824-4454

A Safe Place/Lake County Crisis Center 

Helpline: 847-249-4450

P.O. Box 1067

Waukegan, IL 60079-1067

847-249-5147

safeplace@iconnect.net

Housing for women & children, court advocacy, cultural awareness, support groups, parenting classes, children services.

http://www.asafeplaceforhelp.org/shelterlifefaqs.html

Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life

Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life (New Leaf)

By Ginny NiCarthy, MSW. (2004)

From Amazon.com – Since its original publication in 1982, Getting Free has changed the lives of tens of thousands of women. Written in an accessible style, packed with practical information and answers, special exercises designed to help a woman recognize abuse, and several success stories, Getting Free remains an important resource today—and this updated edition makes it an all the more relevant resource. In this expanded edition, Ginny NiCarthy features important new information from the latest studies and most recent research on the subject. New chapters include an analysis of whether batterers’ treatment really works, which programs help violent men change, and which do not; the results of research on the ways that many men who batter also abuse their children, and specific reactions of children to battering; the cultural and legal issues relevant to immigrant women; and a presentation of how religious beliefs and religious communities affect the real and perceived choices of women facing violence.

Holding My Hand Through Hell

Holding My Hand Through Hell

By Susan Murphy Milano. (2012)

From Amazon.com – This poignant well-written book tells the story of a police officer s family and one daughter s quest for justice long after the heart-wrenching murder of her mother. Susan Murphy Milano embraces a legacy of unconditional love and faith to triumph over a life plagued with unspeakable abuse and pain. Based on a true story, told with the flow of a novel, spiced with frank wisdom and wit, Holding My Hand Through Hell encourages the reader to immerse themselves into this family s life and is an inspiration to become an advocate for change in this world we all share. This book will incite discussion, debate, and heightened awareness about hope, survival, abuse, murder, and its impact on our society. In the end, it will leave readers both applauding this woman as well as wondering how she escaped, sometimes at the eleventh hour. Twenty years later, she has realized that God must have been holding her hand through hell, delivering her from the evils of her life in order to save others.

The Wings Program (Housing)

The Wings Program (Women in Need Growing Stronger)

PO Box 95615

Palatine, IL 60095

847-519-7820

24-HOUR HOTLINE 847-221-5680

wings@wingsprogram.com

http://wingsprogram.com/

Housing

Transitional

Includes shares homes and apartments throughout the north and northwest suburbs of Chicago.

Other

Special housing programs are also available for the disabled, homeless, and for women escaping domestic violence.

If unsure, call: 847-519-7828

Intimate Justice Scale

The Intimate Justice Scale

By Kay Bradford, PhD, LMFT

Read each item below to see if it describes how your partner usually treats you. Then circle the number that best describes how strongly you agree or disagree with whether it applies to you.

1.My partner never admits when she or he is wrong.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

2.My partner is unwilling to adapt to my needs and expectations.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

3.My partner is more insensitive than caring.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

4. I am often forced to sacrifice my own needs to meet my partner’s needs.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

5.My partner refuses to talk about problems that make him or her look bad.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

6.My partner withholds affection unless it would benefit her or him.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

7.It is hard to disagree with my partner because she or he gets angry.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

8.My partner resents being questioned about the way he or she treats me.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

9.My partner builds himself or herself up by putting me down.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

10.My partner retaliates when I disagree with him or her.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

11.My partner is always trying to change me.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

12.My partner believes he or she has the right to force me to do things.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

13.My partner is too possessive or jealous.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

14.My partner tries to isolate me from family and friends.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

15.Sometimes my partner physically hurts me.

I strongly agree                     I do not agree              I don’t agree at all

1                    2                    3                    4                    5

 

Scoring the Intimate Justice Scale

Range:  Low: 15 (no reported violations of intimate justice)

High: 75 (pervasive violations and high likelihood of abuse)

Cutoffs:  15-29: Little risk of violence

30-45: Likelihood of minor violence

>45:  Likelihood of moderate to severe violence

If the score is over 30, assess

1) Types of abuse (sexual, psychological, physical, emotional, restrictive, etc.)

2) Abuse history (frequency, severity, and number of abusive partners)

3) Injury history (types of injuries, whether medical treatment was necessary & whether it was sought)

Further assessment may be done verbally if the client is willing, and/or via other instruments (e.g., Conflict Tactics Scale). Remember, this instrument measures the respondent’s perceptions of the other person.

Jory, B. (2004). The intimate justice scale: An instrument to screen for psychological abuse and physical violence in clinical practice.  Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 30, 29-44.

Impact of Domestic Violence on Children and Youth

Impact of Domestic Violence on Children and Youth

At childwelfare.gov

Child Welfare Information Gateway, affiliated with the US Department of Health & Human Services

https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/domviolence/impact/children-youth/