What To Do If Your Partner Never Initiates Sex
By John D. Moore, PhD
~ 3 min read
February 28, 2017
New York Times Bestseller
“Sharp and prescient… The appeal of Valenti’s memoir lies in her ability to trace objectification through her own life, and to trace what was for a long time her own obliviousness to it…Sex Object is an antidote to the fun and flirty feminism of selfies and self-help.” – New Republic
Hailed by the Washington Post as “one of the most visible and successful feminists of her generation,” Jessica Valenti has been leading the national conversation on gender and politics for over a decade. Now, in a memoir that Publishers Weekly calls “bold and unflinching,” Valenti explores the toll that sexism takes on women’s lives, from the everyday to the existential. From subway gropings and imposter syndrome to sexual awakenings and motherhood, Sex Object reveals the painful, embarrassing, and sometimes illegal moments that shaped Valenti’s adolescence and young adulthood in New York City.
In the tradition of writers like Joan Didion and Mary Karr, Sex Object is a profoundly moving tour de force that is bound to shock those already familiar with Valenti’s work, and enthrall those who are just finding it.
Above review from Amazon.com
Don’t Talk to Your Sons About Sex – Talk About This Instead
By Kitty Black
October 12, 2017
Intimacy After Trauma
By Dr. Kat Smith
Published on January 19, 2017
Navigating romantic relationships has proven to be challenging. In our desire to make a true, heartfelt connection we fail to build a solid foundation for our relationships, which is intimacy. Intimalogy is the study of intimacy and its complexity. In this talk, Intimacy expert, Dr. Kat Smith, shares her story of triumph over trauma. After childhood abuse and date rape, she was able to use her challenging life experiences to open up to the transformational power of love. With today’s challenges of sexual assault and domestic abuse, Dr. Kat uses her past as inspiration and enlightenment to helps to motivate and re-educate men and women on all the components of intimacy, emotional development and the differences between intimacy and sex. She teaches couples how to create the deep intimate connections they desperately desire. Intimalogist, Dr. Kat Smith is America’s Intimacy Expert and formerly a co-host of an ABC radio syndicated show. She is a Certified Love Coach, the author of several books and manufacturer romance and jewelry products. Dr Kat has appeared an expert guest on national and local media. as her work helps singles and couples to expand their capacity to love and be loved by learning to embrace growth and change that heals and enriches not only their intimate relationships but all life relationships. For more information visit http://www.DrKatSmith.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse website has an article by Wendy Maltz, LCSW who’s the author of “The Sexual Healing Journey.”
The Sexual Healing Journey article at havoca.org
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse, by Staci Haines (1999)
Based on the author’s extensive training and experience in working with abuse survivors, The Survivor’s Guide to Sex offers an affirming, sex-positive approach to recovery from incest and rape. While most books on the topic broach sexuality only to reassure women that it is alright to say “no” to unwanted sex, this one encourages women to learn how to say “yes” to their own desires and on their own terms.
Points of discussion include problems common to women survivors. Haines teaches survivors to embrace their own sexual choices and preferences, learn about their own sexual response cycles, and heal through masturbation, sexual fantasy, and play. The Survivor’s Guide to Sex includes resources, bibliography, and an index.
Silent Rage: African American Boys and Sexual Abuse, by Dr. Gabrie’l J. Atchison, Jae Quinlan (Illustrator) (2010).
Silent Rage is an unprecedented exploration of Black boys and sexual abuse. Because being vulnerable is antithetical to cultural definitions of Black manhood, many boys choose to suffer in silence. The silence leads to self-destructive behaviors impacting families and communities. Based on a review of literature provided by therapists and Black male survivors, Silent Rage provides information, resources and hope for male survivors. In addition to survivors, partners and wives of survivors, parents and foster parents, social workers and students within Nursing, Social Work and African American Studies will find this book informative. Cover art “AKOBEN/PROTECT ME” by Jae Quinlan.
From Surviving to Thriving: Incest, Feminism, and Recovery, by Christine Dinsmore. (1991)