Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual

Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Manual

By Deirdre Fay, MSW (Author),‎ Foreword by Janina Fisher, PhD (2012)

From – For most clients with a trauma history, especially those grappling with dissociation, living inside their own skin is challenging. Most clients struggle between sessions, needing the connection to the therapist in order to feel contained. Our trauma clients tread water between therapy sessions, often feeling incapacitated and lost in figuring out a way to help themselves. The results of therapy once or twice a week can fade quickly when faced with the rest of the hours of a week besieged with overwhelming anxiety or despair. The skills in this manual are the foundation of the Becoming Safely Embodied experiential skill set developed to help clients learn step by step ways of being with themselves, especially when they are on their own, between therapy sessions. Nine easy to learn skills are presented and can easily be taught in a group format or to individual clients. Described for groups, the skills can be used individually. In addition there is curriculum for how to open and close the group.

Violence Against Women—It’s a Men’s Issue

Violence Against Women—It’s a Men’s Issue

By Jackson Katz at TEDxFiDiWomen

TEDx Talks

Published on February 11, 2013

Jackson Katz, Phd, is an anti-sexist activist and expert on violence, media and masculinities. An author, filmmaker, educator and social theorist, Katz has worked in gender violence prevention work with diverse groups of men and boys in sports culture and the military, and has pioneered work in critical media literacy.Katz is the creator and co-founder of the Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) program, which advocates the ‘bystander approach’ to sexual and domestic violence prevention. You’ve also seen him in the award winning documentary “MissRepresentation.” To learn more about TEDxFiDiWomen, whether to attend, volunteer, speak or sponsor, please click on the following link! To learn more about Jackson Katz, please visit In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)


Because I Love You: The Silent Shadow of Child Sexual Abuse 

Because I Love You: The Silent Shadow of Child Sexual Abuse 

By Joyce Allan, RN, MA. (2002)

From – The first book which investigates the beliefs and values which underlie SILENCE-KEEPING about child sexual abuse not only by survivors, but also by their friends, family and community. Presented in the form of A COMPELLING MEMOIR, rich in visual warmth, and informed by the expertise of a child activist, it describes how silence creates the “ecology of child sexual abuse.” Ultimately Because I Love You is FOR EVERYONE WHO KNOWS AND CARES ABOUT A VICTIM OR PERPETRATOR, AND EVERYONE WHO IS CONCERNED ABOUT THE EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL SAFETY OF OUR CHILDREN. The book shows how the author’s “life was seriously impacted and nearly derailed by incestuous abuse by her father at an early age, (and) documents her personal struggle to find understanding and expertise in helping her overcome her complicated and extensive posttraumatic and dissociative reactions. “With enormous determination, Allan conducts a detailed examination of her father’s life and learns of his extensive pedophiliac history and its possible origins and motivations. And, finally, she EXAMINES THE SILENCE THAT SO OFTEN ACCOMPANIES ABUSE THAT IS PERPETRATED BY A FAMILY MEMBER, friend, or acquaintance, a silence often based on denial and loyalty that has the inadvertent effect of allowing abuse to continue undeterred. “This is a compelling look at the intergenerational dynamics of sexual abuse and its tragic consequences, and the need for improved and more effective intervention. It is also A TESTAMENT TO HUMAN RESILIANCE AND RENEWAL.”

Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse

The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group Mass Market

By Beverly Engel, MFCC (Author),‎ Eleanor Hamilton, PhD. (Foreword) (1990).

From – “A practical and powerful must-read book for all who have suffered childhood sexual abuse, their family members and loved ones, and for all mental health professionals.”
Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D.

As a trained therapist and sufferer of sexual abuse herself, Beverly Engel knows that there is probably no trauma a child can suffer that makes her or him feel more alone than sexual abuse. This helpful book offers hope for recovery with exercises, visualizations, and techniques that support you through a seven-step program, that will aid you in: facing the truth, releasing your anger, confronting those responsible with facts and feelings, forgiving yourself, and more healing advice and information.

I Can’t Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors 

I Can’t Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors 

By Aphrodite T. Matsakis, PhD (1996)

From – In this ground-breaking book, Dr. Matsakis explains that post-traumatic stress disorder affects not just soldiers, but also survivors of many other types of trauma including:

  • crime
  • vehicular accidents
  • rape
  • family violence
  • sexual abuse
  • natural catastrophes

I Can’t Get Over It directly addresses survivors of trauma. It explains the nature of PTSD and describes the healing process. This book will help you:

  • Find out whether you have PTSD
  • Cope with post-traumatic anger, grief, and survivor guilt
  • Recognize related problems such as depression, substance abuse , compulsive behavior and low self-esteem
  • Identify “triggers” that set off flashbacks, anxiety attacks, and other symptoms
  • Relieve wounding caused by others’ blaming and insensitivity
  • Gain a sense of empowerment and hope for the future

The Sexual Abuse Victim’s Guide To Recovery

The Sexual Abuse Victim’s Guide To Recovery: The Journey from Victim to Survivor to Healthy Survivor and Beyond

By Samantha E. Payne Ph. D. (Author),‎ Dan Payne Ph.D. (Contributor). (2011)

From – This book is written for those who were sexually abused and were not able not get help or adequate help. It is also recommended for family members of those who were sexually abused and those professionals who worked with the sexually abused.

One Woman’s Triumph Over The Tragedy of Incest 

Cry the Darkness: One Woman’s Triumph Over The Tragedy of Incest

By Donna L. Friess Ph.D. (2013)

From – This book has become a classic in child abuse prevention counseling. It is the gripping true story of generational sexual abuse and the dramatic legal trial which culminates in a shocking 15 month battle for safety from the predator that has haunted his victims for over 40 years. It is a must-read for abuse survivors and their therapists and counselors.

Why Me? Help for Victims of Child Sexual Abuse

Why Me? Help for Victims of Child Sexual Abuse: (Even if they are adults now) 

By Dr. Lynn Daugherty. (2013)

From – “A good simple, beginning book for child, teen, and adult survivors” – authors Ellen Bass and Laura Davis in The Courage To Heal.

As well as helping victims, it is also a book for people who want to learn more about child sexual abuse” – Adrian Ford, Senior Social Worker

A Self-Help Classic   ~  Over 60,000 copies sold!

Adults and adolescents who were sexually abused as children find help and healing in this bestseller from a respected Clinical Psychologist. Now in its fourth edition, this warm and personal, beginning guide gives you . . .

– answers to child sexual abuse questions
– stories of male and female victims
– insights into sexual abusers
– explanations of effects on victims
– step-by-step guidance to begin your recovery
– resources for additional assistance

Understand important psychological concepts easily because they are presented in clear, everyday language. Feel understood and valued as you begin healing from the pain of child sexual abuse with this classic bestseller.

> Honored as an Editor’s Choice Selection by Booklist 
> Recommended reading in support groups from New Jersey to Alaska, Scotland to The Netherlands to Fiji

Strong at the Heart: How It Feels to Heal from Sexual Abuse 

Strong at the Heart: How It Feels to Heal from Sexual Abuse 

By Carolyn Lehman (Author),‎ Laura Davis (Foreword). (2014)

From – “This book is an absolute gift to the world.” – Jacqueline Woodson Every year more than half a million young people are sexually abused or assaulted in North America alone. This groundbreaking book brings readers face-to-face with ten adult and teen survivors who speak with candor and courage about the abuse they experienced, how they have healed, and how they are moving forward with their lives. White, black, Latino, and Native American, these everyday heroes come from a wide range of communities and have found different ways to cope with and overcome sexual trauma. Through moving personal stories and striking photographs they take readers into their lives, offering insight and hope for anyone–male or female–affected by this all-too-common childhood experience. In the comprehensive resource section, readers of this softcover edition will find an updated guide to worldwide help organizations, as well as the best books, films, and Web sites on healing and resilience.