Men Need To Talk About Their Sexual Abuse | Seth Shelley | TEDxUNBC

December 13, 2017

TEDx Talks

Pastor Seth Shelley takes us on an emotional and at times difficult journey about male sexual violence. He brings forward his own story of sexual assault to ask men to open up about their personal stories too. Recorded at TEDxUNBC in Prince George, BC. Seth speaks to an issue common around the world, sexual assault. However, it is men who also need to share their stories of abuse. Far too many men are silent about their own stories of trauma and eventual healing. It is our society’s ideas around masculinity which prevent men from opening up, and steal their narratives from them. Only through sharing with friends and family do we reclaim our stories for ourselves. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx Graduating from Summit Pacific Bible College in 2012 with a BA in Religion, Seth has pastored in Western Canada for the past 5 years. Currently he is the Associate Pastor at Timbers Community Church in Prince George, BC where his role is to provide counselling services, preform weddings and funerals, organize events for the community and a variety of other things. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

As a Man Who Has Experienced Sexual Abuse, Why Do I Feel So Much Shame?

For men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault—either in childhood or adulthood—feelings of shame can be confusing. Learn how shame can be both understood and overcome.

At 1in6.org

https://1in6.org/get-information/common-questions/why-do-i-feel-so-much-shame/

Fawn’s Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused

Look inside this book.
Fawn's Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused (Help for Sexually Abused Children Book 1) by [Agnes Wohl, Irene Wineman Marcus, Jackie Bluzer]

Help for Sexually Abused Children Book 1

By Agnes Wohl, LCSW, ACBS, Irene Wineman Marcus, Child & Adult Psychoanalyst, & Jackie Bluzer (Illustrator) 

From Amazon.com: “Introduction to Parents, School Personnel and Psychotherapists: There are many books aimed at the prevention of sexual abuse; few story books are geared for children that deal with the profound emotional aftermath. This book is unique because it offers the use of engaging animal protagonists, which allows the child to work through painful emotions in a less threatening and more effective manner. Among the most universal issues for the sexually abused child are: the mixed feelings toward the abuser, the dread and wish to be loved, the difficulties of disclosing the abuse, the fear of being blamed and/or of not being believed. The effects frequently culminate in a sense of vulnerability, damaged self-esteem, guilt and faulty defenses against the feelings of being hurt. This can lead to a wide range of self-destructive behavior in childhood and adulthood. This gentle, “child friendly”, animal tale provides children with a story they can listen to again and again. Parents, psychotherapists and school professionals can use this book as a point of entry into complex feelings that the youngster, or any sexually abused person might experience. Our hope is that with the help of this book, the child will begin the process of healing and gradual resumption of his or her healthy psychological development.”

‎Truth and Consequences: Silenced on Apple Podcasts

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‎Truth and Consequences: Silenced on Apple Podcasts

‎Show Truth and Consequences, Ep Silenced – Oct 5, 2019 About Silence

Miranda Pacchiana, MSW reads and responds to a letter from a survivor of child sexual abuse.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/truth-and-consequences/id1478303049?i=1000452454965

Mothers Who Fail to Protect Their Children from Sexual Abuse: Addressing the Problem of Denial

By Christine Adams

Christine Adams, Mothers Who Fail to Protect Their Children from Sexual Abuse: Addressing the Problem of Denial, 12Yale L. & Pol’y Rev.(1994).

https://digitalcommons.law.yale.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1273&context=ylpr&fbclid=IwAR3TRjkuIKDpDcCo4ruQEB4QNKnxE_MIOCJTP6dUR2wm1p8YMpZ9mYZN690