Signs & Symptoms a Child May Have Major Attachment Problems

Signs & Symptoms a Child May Have Major Attachment Problems

-Lack of ability to give and receive affection

-Phoniness-may be superficially charming and show affection to strangers

-Self-destructive behavior

-Cruelty to others

-Stealing, hoarding, gorging

-May act hard of hearing or have speech problems-child controls verbal interactions

-Pathological lying

-Extreme control problems-ongoing power struggles

-Lack of long-term friends

-Abnormalities in eye contact-may look you in the eye when lying or wants something from you

-Preoccupation with blood, fire, gore

-Sees caretakers as unreasonably angry and harsh-often feel abused when not-may falsely claim abuse

Still Face Experiment

Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick

UMass Boston

Uploaded on Nov 30, 2009

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Ed Tronick (, director of UMass Boston’s Infant-Parent Mental Health Program (…) and Distinguished Professor of Psychology, discusses the cognitive abilities of infants to read and react to their social surroundings. The video is an excerpt from Lovett Productions’ HELPING BABIES FROM THE BENCH: USING THE SCIENCE OF EARLY CHILDHOOD IN COURT.

Using the “Still Face” Experiment, in which a mother denies her baby attention for a short period of time, Tronick describes how prolonged lack of attention can move an infant from good socialization, to periods of bad but repairable socialization. In “ugly” situations the child does not receive any chance to return to the good, and may become stuck.

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The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Intimacy

The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Intimacy, by Dr. Paul Coleman. (2005)

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The comprehensive guide to getting close?and closer ?

Renowned psychologist Dr. Paul Coleman gives readers a step-by-step, clear path to improving their relationships by helping them identify intimacy problems, understand key differences between men and women, change perceptions, overcome arguments, and effectively communicate. He also covers sexual intimacy and affection issues, including intimacy during stressful times, transitions, and as relationships progress. This book is a beacon for those looking to solve their struggles with intimacy.
-Tools and exercises for both physical and emotional intimacy
-Self-assessment tests and exercises to help pinpoint issues
-For couples, singles, and families, men and women
-Coleman is an expert with an active practice and specialty in intimacy issues who?s made appearances on Oprah, Today, and Geraldo

Becoming Attached: 1st Relationships How They Shape Our Capacity to Love

Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love, by Robert Karen (clinical psychologist), Reprint Edition. Oxford University Press (1998)

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The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children–seemingly against our will–the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one’s own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.