There’s Narcissism, Then There’s Malignant Narcissism

Surviving Narcissism

Premiered May 1, 2019

Does it seem that the narcissist in your life can be quite exaggerated in the need to dominate and invalidate you? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains how malignant narcissism works, and especially how you can spot it and stay out of the clutches of the one whose need for control goes into overdrive. Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 39 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. Books by Dr. Carter: https://store.bookbaby.com/book/When-… https://www.amazon.com/When-Pleasing-… https://www.amazon.com/Anger-Trap-You… https://www.amazon.com/Enough-About-Y… Online workshops about narcissism, anger management, and overcoming infidelity: http://drlescarter.com/video-workshops/ While Dr. Carter and Laura Charanza do not conduct online counseling, they have vetted a group who can help: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarci… (sponsored) Dr. Carter’s other YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter

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Are Sexual Abuse Victims Being Diagnosed with a Mental Disorder They Don’t Have?

Women

The lack of recognition for complex PTSD by the psychiatric establishment means it is difficult for sexual abuse victims who might suffer from it to receive the right diagnosis

Alexandra Shimo

March 27, 2019 

At theguardian.com

https://www.theguardian.com theguardian.com /lifeandstyle/2019/mar/27/are-sexual-abuse-victims-being-diagnosed-with-a-mental-disorder-they-dont-have?CMP=share_btn_fb&fbclid=IwAR0il9fbpXLVXnJ_I0srxuyezUoIdG9ARc72mYU-V09UnMQTygbnXSuTW5Y

Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD., & Randi Kreger (2011).

From Amazon.com: “Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse. Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better―many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

Turn to this guide to help you:

Predict what your spouse may do or say in court

Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking

Choose a lawyer who understands your case

Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you.”

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About the Authors

Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, has been a family lawyer for over eighteen years and a therapist for over twelve years. He is senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, CA, and president of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, AZ. He is a faculty member at Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College and has provided seminars to judges, lawyers, counselors, and others on the subject of managing high-conflict personalities in legal disputes.

Randi Kreger owns and maintains www.bpdcentral.com, one of the largest and most popular websites about borderline personality disorder (BPD). With nearly twenty thousand active members, her website’s online community Welcome to Oz offers online support to friends and family members of those with BPD. Kreger was instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization, and speaks at BPD workshops internationally. She is coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells and The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and author of The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She lives in Milwaukee, WI.

The Differences Between Psychopaths and Sociopaths

The Differences Between Psychopaths and Sociopaths

There are vital differences between them.

Posted January 9, 2018

By Scott A. Bonn, Ph.D.

At Psychologytoday.com

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201801/the-differences-between-psychopaths-and-sociopaths?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR1z1tGYIvIXIyJpQ1WFAOw3Z3wc1uMC653yoldlBbQuxTc8gElKLfDSmmw

The Psychology of Narcissism

The Psychology of Narcissism

By Keith Campbell

TED-Ed

Published February 23, 2016

View full lesson: http://ed.ted.com/lessons/the-psychol… Narcissism isn’t just a personality type that shows up in advice columns; it’s actually a set of traits classified and studied by psychologists. But what causes it? And can narcissists improve on their negative traits? W. Keith Campbell describes the psychology behind the elevated and sometimes detrimental self-involvement of narcissists. Lesson by W. Keith Campbell, animation by TOGETHER.

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Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare

Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself by [Arabi, Shahida]

Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself Kindle Edition

by Shahida Arabi  (2016)

From Amazon.com: “Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as “narcissistic abuse.” Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

In this book, survivors will learn:

•The red flags of narcissistic behavior and covert manipulation tactics, including subtle signs many survivors don’t catch in the early stages of dating a narcissist.
•The motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist’s manipulation.
•Why abuse survivors usually stay with a narcissist long after incidents of abuse occur.
•How our own brain chemistry locks us into an addiction with a narcissistic or toxic partner, creating cravings for the constant chaos of the abuse cycle.
•Traditional and alternative methods to begin to detach and heal from the addiction to the narcissist, including eleven important steps all survivors must take on the road to healing.
•Methods to rewrite the narratives that abusers have written for us so we can begin to reconnect with our authentic selves and purpose.
•How to rebuild an even more victorious and empowering life after abuse.

Narcissistic partners employ numerous stealthy tactics to devalue and manipulate their victims behind closed doors. These partners lack empathy and demonstrate an incredible sense of entitlement and sense of superiority which drives their exploitative behavior in interpersonal relationships. Their tactics can include verbal abuse and emotional invalidation, stonewalling, projection, taking control of every aspect of the victim’s life, gaslighting and triangulation. Due to the narcissistic partner’s “false self,” the charismatic mask he or she projects to society, the victim often feels isolated in this type of abuse and is unlikely to have his or her experiences validated by friends, family and society.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they’ve been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?”

11 Signs You’re the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse

Recovering from a Narcissist

with Shahida Arabi, M.A.

11 Signs You’re the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse

By Shahida Arabi, Bestselling Author
~ 9 min read

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/08/11-signs-youre-the-victim-of-narcissistic-abuse/?li_source=LI&li_medium=popular17

How to safely leave an abusive relationship

How to safely leave an abusive relationship – Terri Cole – Real Love Revolution 2017

https://youtu.be/8AQEK62Jogs

Terri Cole Real Love Revolution

Published on January 16, 2017

How to safely leave an abusive relationship – Terri Cole – Real Love Revolution 2017 http://terricole.com/rlr/ How to Safely Leave an Abusive Relationship Do you feel trapped in your relationship? When you think about leaving, are you actually afraid of what your partner would do? In this video, I’m going to teach you how to leave an abusive and/or controlling partner so you can get on with your amazing life. And I’m not just talking about physical abuse, I am talking about emotional and verbal abuse as well. If you are afraid there will be retribution from your partner for ending it, for example, that they will embarrass you at work or call you boss, or tell your friends and family a secret about you, then you are most likely in an abusive relationship, and in this video, I will outline a safe way for you to get out. In this Real Love Revolution video, I cover: Different types of abusive relationships What kind of plan(s) you should first make before taking any action How to safely leave an abusive relationship in a step-by-step guide, including making a survival kit Resources you can use to aid you in your exit Part one of this video series is called “10 Signs You Are in an Abusive Relationship,” and you should check that out as well because when you’re in the thick of this kind of relationship, it becomes difficult for you to tell that you are being abused. Watch it here

 

https://youtu.be/GMfyJv98N5A Abusers can be very crafty at convincing you that the problem is you. And before we get into the steps of how to safely leave an abusive relationship, I want to be clear, that you must first make a safe exit plan. Don’t do anything yet. There are ways that you can get help with this. Don’t do anything impulsive, or anything that tips your hand to an abuser. The first step has to be admitting and acknowledging that there is abuse. Many of my clients who have gone through an abusive situation start off doubting their own experience. It seems that if you don’t have a black eye or a broken bone, it’s not abuse, but let me tell you – that isn’t true. Name calling, intimidation, yelling…those are all different faces of abuse. Abusers can be apologetic after the abuse occurs and an initial honeymoon period of reconnection can feel good. Then the tension builds again, and it leads to another explosion, that’s why it’s called a cycle of abuse. You could stay trapped in this cycle for the rest of your life, but please don’t. I don’t want you to. This is your one and only amazing life. Not only can you survive this situation, but you can get out of it and thrive. I have helped clients leave abusive situations and their lives have blossomed. Just know that it truly is possible for you to live a second or third part of your life, regardless of how long you’ve been in this relationship. You have a right to be safe. You have a right to be happy. You have a right to be deeply, deeply loved. Watch the video above for the rest of the steps on how to leave an abusive situation and see a list below of resources you can use to help you safely leave your abuser. Don’t underestimate or minimize what is happening in your life. If you are walking on eggshells, if you are afraid of your partner, if you are afraid to leave, this tells you that you must leave. And there’s a safe way to do it. Resources for Safely Leaving an Abusive Relationship: *If you are in immediate danger, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline listed below or call 911. The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 http://www.thehotline.org/ Women’s Law http://www.womenslaw.org/index.php National Network to End Domestic Violence http://nnedv.org/ Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/ Office on Women’s Health, listing resources by state on violence against women: https://www.womenshealth.gov/violence… Domestic Shelters, discussing how to flee an abuser when you are with your children: https://www.domesticshelters.org/dome… The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, listing child custody saws by state: http://www.ncjfcj.org/our-work/state-… Thanks for watching, reading and sharing. And as always, take care of YOU. WHERE TO FIND ME: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCS… Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/terricoleLCSW/ Terri Cole: terricole.com

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Why Is It So Hard to Leave the Narcissist in Your Life?

Why Is It So Hard to Leave the Narcissist in Your Life?

How Narcissistic trauma bonding keeps you coming back for more.

By Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D.

Posted January 31, 2018

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201801/why-is-it-so-hard-leave-the-narcissist-in-your-life