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Why Won’t You Apologize?
Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts
By Harriet Lerner PhD
October 10, 2017
“If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong
“Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose, and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT author of Mating in Captivity
Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language—I’m sorry—and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.
Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people won’t give them—for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we’ve inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful “I’m sorry” and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury.
Why Won’t You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party—the one who has been hurt by someone who won’t apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.
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Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse
It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion, by Beverly Engel, LMFT (2015).
Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault.
In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this book, you’ll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.
Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.
This book is based on the author’s powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this book, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You’ll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you’ll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion—pride.
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Is Childhood Emotional Neglect Weighing on Your Relationship?
Is Childhood Emotional Neglect Weighing on Your Relationship?
By Jonice Webb, PhD
~ 3 min read
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/childhood-neglect/2017/09/is-childhood-emotional-neglect-weighing-on-your-relationship/?utm_source=Psych+Central+Weekly+Newsletter&utm_campaign=1ce8e6346e-GEN_EMAIL_CAMPAIGN&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c648d0eafd-1ce8e6346e-29826629
Things Not to Say to a Survivor
Tyler Perry Explains Why He Takes Care of Abusive Father
Tyler Perry Explains Why He Takes Care of Abusive Father
By Jeanne Croteau
~ 1 min read
At blogs.psychcentral.com
When Favoritism Becomes Abuse
When Favoritism Becomes Abuse
Favoritism isn’t always abusive, but when it is…
By Ellen Weber Libby, Ph.D. The Favorite Child
Posted April 23, 2011
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-favorite-child/201104/when-favoritism-becomes-abuse
The Insidious Type of Sexual Abuse You Might Be Ignoring
The Insidious Type of Sexual Abuse You Might Be Ignoring
By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S
March 3, 2016
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-23980/the-insidious-type-of-sexual-abuse-you-might-be-ignoring.html
Stories of the Lasting Impact of Childhood Trauma Inflicted by Loved Ones
Baffled by Love: Stories of the Lasting Impact of Childhood Trauma Inflicted by Loved Ones
By Laurie Kahn, MA, LCPC, MFA. (June 6, 2017)
From Amazon.com …
For three decades, Laurie Kahn has treated clients who were abused as children―people who were injured by someone whom they believed to be trustworthy, someone who professed to love them. Their abusers―a father, stepfather, priest, coach, babysitter, aunt, neighbor―often were people who inhabited their daily lives.
Love is why they come to therapy. Love is what they want, and love is what they say is not going well for them.
Kahn, too, had to learn to navigate a wilderness in order to find the “good” kind of love after a rocky childhood. In Baffled by Love, she includes strands from her own story, along with those of her clients, creating a narrative full of resonance, meaning, and shared humanity.
10 Hidden Ways a Group Abuses an Individual
10 Hidden Ways a Group Abuses an Individual
By Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC
~ 2 min read
At PsychCentral.com
4 Effects of a Controlling Upbringing People Struggle With
4 Effects of a Controlling Upbringing People Struggle With
By Darius Cikanavicius
~ 5 min read
At PsychCentral.com
Six Ways Developmental Trauma Shapes Adult Identity
Six Ways Developmental Trauma Shapes Adult Identity
Dissociation from oneself has long-term implications for who we become.
Grant H. Brenner, MD, ExperiMentations
July 1, 2017