Women & Shame: Reaching Out, Speaking Truths and Building Connection, by Brené Brown. (2004)
Month: May 2015
The Dance of Deception
The Dance of Deception: Pretending and Truth-Telling in Women’s Lives, by Harriet Goldhor Lerner. (2003).
I Thought We’d Never Speak Again
I Thought We’d Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation, by Laura Davis. ( 2013)
From Amazon.com – In her bestselling classic The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis helped millions heal from the pain of child sexual abuse. Now, in I Thought We’d Never Speak Again, she tackles another critical, emerging issue: reconciling relationships that have been damaged by betrayal, anger, and misunderstanding.
With clarity and compassion, Davis maps the reconciliation process through gripping first-person stories of people who have mended relationships in a wide variety of circumstances. In these pages, parents reconcile with children, embittered siblings reconnect, angry friends reunite, and war veterans and crime victims meet with their enemies. Davis weaves these powerful accounts with her own experiences reconciling with her mother after a long, painful estrangement.
Making a crucial distinction between reconciliation and forgiveness, Davis explains how people can make peace in relationships without necessarily forgiving past hurts. In addition to a special section called “Ideas for Reflection and Discussion,” she includes a self-assessment quiz, “Are You Ready for Reconciliation?”
Whether you want to reconcile a relationship that has ended, improve a relationship that is difficult or distant, or learn the skills you need for dealing with the inevitable conflicts we all face in life, this book will teach you to mend troubled relationships and find peace.
Common Problems Abuse Survivors Face
In relationships … fighting, blaming, mistrusting, poor communication skills and difficulty with intimacy.
Low Self Esteem … self-doubt, self-blame, shame.
Self Sabotage … self-destructive or self-mutilating behavior.
Sexual Problems … sexual inhibition or promiscuity, flashbacks to abusive experiences during sexual contact, inability to achieve orgasm, pain or numbing during intimacy, lack of interest in sex.
Symptoms of Trauma … fear, panic, agitation, anxiety, numbing of bodily areas, nightmares, multiple personalities, feelings of being disconnected from body.
Physical Ailments … psychosomatic illnesses, stomachaches, eating disorders, skin disorders, asthma, headaches and phobias.
Social Alienation … feeling different from others, not accepted, stigmatized.
Difficulty in Handling Feelings … trouble in recognizing, managing and appropriately expressing feelings.
About Adults Abused as Children
Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused as Children, by Eliana Gil. (2009)
The Effects of Traumatic Stress
Mind/Body Health: The Effects of Traumatic Stress
Taken From: The American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress
http://www.aaets.org/article158.htm
Managing Traumatic Stress
Growing Beyond Survival: A Self-Help Toolkit for Managing Traumatic Stress, by Elizabeth G. Vermilyea. (2013). The Sidran Press.
Moral Injury
NPR Podcast
Moral Injury Is The ‘Signature Wound’ Of Today’s Veterans
November 11, 2014, 4:29pm ET
http://www.npr.org/2014/11/11/363288341/moral-injury-is-the-signature-wound-of-today-s-veterans
The Power of Kindness
The Power of Kindness: The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life, by Piero Ferrucci (psychotherapist & philosopher). (2007)
The Secret Life of Your Cells
The Secret Life of Your Cells: The Latest from Cleve Backster’s Research, by Robert S. Stone, PhD. (1997)
Quantum Healing
Quantum Healing Exploring the Frontiers of Mind /Body Spirit, by (1989)
Men, Women, and Worthiness
Men, Women, and Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough, by Brene Brown PhD LMSW
[Audiobook, CD] [Audio CD] (2012)