Three Fights in One

Three Fights in One

Use this model as a journal format to write about the thoughts and feelings that come to you as you read and think about the ideas above.

There are actually 3 things going on for all fights, they are:

1.What you’re fighting about right now

2.The history of this conflict during the history of your relationship

3.About pain from both of your families of origin such as unmet needs in your childhood.

Paraphrased from seminar “Helping Couples Manage Anger & Work Through Conflicts”, by Fran Giordano, April 11, 2009.

Communicating Feelings About Our Relationship

Communicating Feelings About Our Relationship

The two of you created your relationship and how it does or does not function today. No one person is responsible for it not working the way you’d like.

In our relationship, I feel appreciated when you …

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In our relationship, I feel loved when you …

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In our relationship, I feel happiest when you …

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In our marriage, I feel saddest when you …

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In our relationship, I feel angriest when you …

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In our relationship, I would like more …

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In our relationship, I would like less …

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In our relationship, I feel close to you when …

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What I like most about our relationship is …

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My greatest concern about our relationship is …

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Our relationship could be greatly improved if we both …