Category: Father Issues

Invisible Dad: How to Heal as a Fatherless Daughter

Invisible Dad: How to Heal as a Fatherless Daughter by [Crear, Candice]

Invisible Dad: How to Heal as a Fatherless Daughter 

By Candice Crear. (2017)

From Amazon.com: “Why me? As a fatherless child, your interpretation of society is a little different. You constantly feel incomplete when you see fathers on television, in the grocery store, and on social media. And no matter how much you try to voice your feelings, you steadily are sucked into life’s woes. Perfection is the perfect way for you to mentally escape. Ultimately, you never deal with the trials of your childhood, leaving you to grow into a person that lacks confidence in your emotional voice. Join Candice as she takes you on her journey of coming face-to-face with being a fatherless daughter, to living an amazing life filled with healing and wholeness. Candice’s life-changing path will help you come to terms with who you truly are. Full of raw feelings, interesting twists, and a desperate plea for peace, Invisible Dad is the tool you need to transform your life into the best “you” you can be. This book is what you’ve been looking for!”

Fatherless Daughters

Fatherless Daughters: Turning the Pain of Loss into the Power of Forgiveness 

By Pamela Thomas. (2018)

From Amazon.com:  “A moving, elegantly written, and exhaustively researched account of what it means for a girl to lose a father to death or divorce—with advice for fatherless daughters on how to cope. 

“People who lose their parents early in life are like fellow war veterans. As soon as they discover that they are talking to someone else who has lost a parent, they know they are speaking the same language without uttering a word.”

Pamela Thomas gives voice to this unspoken pain in Fatherless Daughters.Still haunted by her own father’s death when she was ten, Thomas decided to explore its effects. Though her journey began as a personal one, she soon felt the need to hear from other women and ended up interviewing more than one hundred fatherless women. They ranged in age from nineteen to ninety-four; they came from all areas of the country as well as Europe and Asia; some had lost their fathers to death, others to divorce or abandonment. Each account was unique, but the impact of a father’s loss was profound in every woman’s life.

Thomas begins by defining what it means to be a father in our world. She discusses the initial shock of his loss, exploring the aspects that color how a young girl experiences it: her age at the time of her father’s death or abandonment, her mother’s behavior and attitudes, her place in the family vis-à-vis siblings, and the influence of a stepfather or father-surrogates.

Thomas shows how a father’s early death or abandonment affects a woman’s emotional health and self-esteem, her body image, her sexual experiences, her marriage, her family life, and her career. Perhaps most important, Thomas offers compassionate advice for coming to terms with father loss, even late in life, from actively mourning, to healing, to starting fresh.”

Father Absence, Father Deficit, Father Hunger

Father Absence, Father Deficit, Father Hunger

The Vital Importance of Paternal Presence in Children’s Lives

Posted May 23, 2012

By Edward Kruk, Ph.D., Co-Parenting After Divorce

At Psychologytoday.com

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201205/father-absence-father-deficit-father-hunger

Fatherless Sons: Healing the Legacy of Loss 1st Edition

Fatherless Sons: Healing the Legacy of Loss 1st Edition, by Jonathan Diamond Ph.D. (2006)

From Amazon.com – “Praise for Fatherless Sons
“Research shows that most men now are better fathers than their own fathers were to them. A generation of men are ‘making it up,’ giving to their children more than they received. No one describes the poignancy–and hope–of contemporary fatherhood better than Jonathan Diamond’s heartfelt and insightful new book. For every man who had a father–and who wants to be one.”
–Terrence Real, author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

“Diamond’s moving account of his relationship with his father is a nuanced exploration of mourning and its aftermath.”
–Publishers Weekly

“This is a powerful and beautiful book, written with warmth, humor, and generosity of spirit. Fatherless Sons guides us through the complex journey of grief, helping to transform pain and anguish into hope and healing.”
–Dr. Dusty Miller, author of Your Surviving Spirit and Women Who Hurt Themselves.”

The Fatherless Daughter Project: Understanding Our Losses and Reclaiming Our Lives

The Fatherless Daughter Project: Understanding Our Losses and Reclaiming Our Lives, by Denna Babul, RN & Karin Luise, PhD.  (2016).

From Amazon.com – “This groundbreaking work will give voice to an enormous population of women who are struggling to understand themselves in the face of their fathers’ absence.” —Claire Bidwell Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance and After This

When Motherless Daughters was published 20 years ago, it unleashed a tsunami of healing awareness. When Denna Babul and Karin Smithson couldn’t find the equivalent book for fatherlessness, The Fatherless Daughter Project was born. The book will set fatherless women on the path to growth and fulfillment by helping them to understand how their loss has impacted their lives.

A father is supposed to provide a sense of security and stability. Losing a father comes with particular costs that vary depending on the way he left and how old a girl was when she lost him. Drawing on interviews with over 5000 women who became fatherless due to death, divorce, neglect, and outright abandonment, the authors have found that fatherless daughters tend to push their emotions underground.  These issues in turn become distinct patterns in their relationships as adult women and they often can’t figure out why. Delivered with compassion and expertise, this book allows readers support and understanding they never had when they first needed it, and it encourages the conversation to continue.”

Fatherloss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Their Dads 

Fatherloss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Their Dads 

by Neil Chethik. (2001)

From Amazon: FatherLoss is a nuanced look at one of the most common and least-studied events in men’s lives. Offering a fresh view of the grieving process and practical advice, this book contains information on: how a son can prepare for his loss; coping immediately following the death; a woman’s role in helping men through it; and the different ways men grieve.