Things Not to Say to a Survivor
At Havoca.org (Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse)
Intimacy After Trauma
TEDxMountainViewCollege
By Dr. Kat Smith
Published on January 19, 2017
Navigating romantic relationships has proven to be challenging. In our desire to make a true, heartfelt connection we fail to build a solid foundation for our relationships, which is intimacy. Intimalogy is the study of intimacy and its complexity. In this talk, Intimacy expert, Dr. Kat Smith, shares her story of triumph over trauma. After childhood abuse and date rape, she was able to use her challenging life experiences to open up to the transformational power of love. With today’s challenges of sexual assault and domestic abuse, Dr. Kat uses her past as inspiration and enlightenment to helps to motivate and re-educate men and women on all the components of intimacy, emotional development and the differences between intimacy and sex. She teaches couples how to create the deep intimate connections they desperately desire. Intimalogist, Dr. Kat Smith is America’s Intimacy Expert and formerly a co-host of an ABC radio syndicated show. She is a Certified Love Coach, the author of several books and manufacturer romance and jewelry products. Dr Kat has appeared an expert guest on national and local media. as her work helps singles and couples to expand their capacity to love and be loved by learning to embrace growth and change that heals and enriches not only their intimate relationships but all life relationships. For more information visit http://www.DrKatSmith.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
The Insidious Type of Sexual Abuse You Might Be Ignoring
By Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S
March 3, 2016
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-23980/the-insidious-type-of-sexual-abuse-you-might-be-ignoring.html
Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past: A Practical Guide for Understanding and Working with Traumatic Memory
By Peter A. Levine Ph.D. (Author), Bessel A. van der Kolk M.D.(Foreword). (October 27, 2015)
Baffled by Love: Stories of the Lasting Impact of Childhood Trauma Inflicted by Loved Ones
By Laurie Kahn, MA, LCPC, MFA. (June 6, 2017)
From Amazon.com …
For three decades, Laurie Kahn has treated clients who were abused as children―people who were injured by someone whom they believed to be trustworthy, someone who professed to love them. Their abusers―a father, stepfather, priest, coach, babysitter, aunt, neighbor―often were people who inhabited their daily lives.
Love is why they come to therapy. Love is what they want, and love is what they say is not going well for them.
Kahn, too, had to learn to navigate a wilderness in order to find the “good” kind of love after a rocky childhood. In Baffled by Love, she includes strands from her own story, along with those of her clients, creating a narrative full of resonance, meaning, and shared humanity.
Six Ways Developmental Trauma Shapes Adult Identity
Dissociation from oneself has long-term implications for who we become.
Grant H. Brenner, MD, ExperiMentations
July 1, 2017
Why Are Memories of My Past Trauma Coming Back Now?
May 18, 2015
By Lisa Nosal, MFT
At GoodTherapy.org
Girl Explains Rape In 11 Tweets, And Everyone Must Read Them
May 2017
By Stella
At Boredpanda.com
(My personal note: Arousal is a physiological response to one’s sexual organs being stimulated; it’s wired into our bodies, thus these bodily responses are out of our control.
Desire is our psychological wish to have sex with someone; it’s something we want to do. It’s a very different thing than arousal because it is our specific feelings for the other person.)
Better After Trauma Than Before It? For Many, It’s True
August 5, 2015
By Anastasia Pollock, LCMHC, Posttraumatic Stress Topic Expert Contributor
‘I’m Still Not Good Enough’: When Trauma’s Old Ghosts Resurface
April 17, 2017
By Denise Olesky, MA, NCC, LPC, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert
Helping Someone with PTSD
Helping a Friend or Loved One Deal with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
At Helpguide.org
Body Memories and ‘Grounding’ in Sexual Trauma Therapy
March 29, 2017
Contributed by Reaca Pearl, MA, LPC, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert