How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment: 7 Dos and 10 Don’ts

How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment: 7 Dos and 10 Don’ts

By Susan Anderson

4/3/2015; Updated June 3, 2015

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-anderson/how-to-overcome-fear-of-a_b_6988748.html

Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist, Author, Workshop Leader – Founder Abandonment Recovery Movement and www.abandonment.net and outerchild.net

Fatherless Sons: Healing the Legacy of Loss 1st Edition

Fatherless Sons: Healing the Legacy of Loss 1st Edition, by Jonathan Diamond Ph.D. (2006)

From Amazon.com – “Praise for Fatherless Sons
“Research shows that most men now are better fathers than their own fathers were to them. A generation of men are ‘making it up,’ giving to their children more than they received. No one describes the poignancy–and hope–of contemporary fatherhood better than Jonathan Diamond’s heartfelt and insightful new book. For every man who had a father–and who wants to be one.”
–Terrence Real, author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

“Diamond’s moving account of his relationship with his father is a nuanced exploration of mourning and its aftermath.”
–Publishers Weekly

“This is a powerful and beautiful book, written with warmth, humor, and generosity of spirit. Fatherless Sons guides us through the complex journey of grief, helping to transform pain and anguish into hope and healing.”
–Dr. Dusty Miller, author of Your Surviving Spirit and Women Who Hurt Themselves.”

The Fatherless Daughter Project: Understanding Our Losses and Reclaiming Our Lives

The Fatherless Daughter Project: Understanding Our Losses and Reclaiming Our Lives, by Denna Babul, RN & Karin Luise, PhD.  (2016).

From Amazon.com – “This groundbreaking work will give voice to an enormous population of women who are struggling to understand themselves in the face of their fathers’ absence.” —Claire Bidwell Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance and After This

When Motherless Daughters was published 20 years ago, it unleashed a tsunami of healing awareness. When Denna Babul and Karin Smithson couldn’t find the equivalent book for fatherlessness, The Fatherless Daughter Project was born. The book will set fatherless women on the path to growth and fulfillment by helping them to understand how their loss has impacted their lives.

A father is supposed to provide a sense of security and stability. Losing a father comes with particular costs that vary depending on the way he left and how old a girl was when she lost him. Drawing on interviews with over 5000 women who became fatherless due to death, divorce, neglect, and outright abandonment, the authors have found that fatherless daughters tend to push their emotions underground.  These issues in turn become distinct patterns in their relationships as adult women and they often can’t figure out why. Delivered with compassion and expertise, this book allows readers support and understanding they never had when they first needed it, and it encourages the conversation to continue.”

Signs & Symptoms a Child May Have Major Attachment Problems

Signs & Symptoms a Child May Have Major Attachment Problems

-Lack of ability to give and receive affection

-Phoniness-may be superficially charming and show affection to strangers

-Self-destructive behavior

-Cruelty to others

-Stealing, hoarding, gorging

-May act hard of hearing or have speech problems-child controls verbal interactions

-Pathological lying

-Extreme control problems-ongoing power struggles

-Lack of long-term friends

-Abnormalities in eye contact-may look you in the eye when lying or wants something from you

-Preoccupation with blood, fire, gore

-Sees caretakers as unreasonably angry and harsh-often feel abused when not-may falsely claim abuse

‘I’m Still Not Good Enough’: When Trauma’s Old Ghosts Resurface

‘I’m Still Not Good Enough’: When Trauma’s Old Ghosts Resurface

April 17, 2017

By Denise Olesky, MA, NCC, LPC, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/im-still-not-good-enough-when-traumas-old-ghosts-resurface-0417174?utm_source=Subscribers&utm_campaign=8217f86582-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2017_04_25&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_135946a8dd-8217f86582-71304725