Judith Lewis Herman, M.D. Quote

“Underlying the attack on psychotherapy, I believe, is a recognition of the potential power of any relationship of witnessing. The consulting room is a privileged space dedicated to memory. Within that space, survivors gain the freedom to know and tell their stories. Even the most private and confidential disclosure of past abuses increases the likelihood of eventual public disclosure. And public disclosure is something that perpetrators are determined to prevent. As in the case of more overtly political crimes, perpetrators will fight tenaciously to ensure that their abuses remain unseen, unacknowledged, and consigned to oblivion.

The dialectic of trauma is playing itself out once again. It is worth remembering that this is not the first time in history that those who have listened closely to trauma survivors have been subject to challenge. Nor will it be the last. In the past few years, many clinicians have had to learn to deal with the same tactics of harassment and intimidation that grassroots advocates for women, children and other oppressed groups have long endured. We, the bystanders, have had to look within ourselves to find some small portion of the courage that victims of violence must muster every day.

Some attacks have been downright silly; many have been quite ugly. Though frightening, these attacks are an implicit tribute to the power of the healing relationship. They remind us that creating a protected space where survivors can speak their truth is an act of liberation. They remind us that bearing witness, even within the confines of that sanctuary, is an act of solidarity. They remind us also that moral neutrality in the conflict between victim and perpetrator is not an option. Like all other bystanders, therapists are sometimes forced to take sides. Those who stand with the victim will inevitably have to face the perpetrator’s unmasked fury. For many of us, there can be no greater honor. p.246 – 247
Judith Lewis Herman, M.D. February, 1997”
― Judith Lewis HermanTrauma and Recovery
from http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/psychotherapy?page=3

Codependency & Loneliness

Codependency & Loneliness: Why Codependents Stay with Narcissists. Lonely Hurts!

Published on April 4, 2015

April 4, 2015. Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, discusses how and why codependency and loneliness are connected. He also explains why trauma resolution is indelibly linked to long-term codependency recovery. Moreover, he discusses how loneliness is the primary affective state that keeps a codependents from finding healthy romantic relationship or keeps them stuck in them. The content of this video will be included in his upcoming book: The Codependency Cure: Breaking Free from the Narcissist

https://youtu.be/whjDeFZDEUk