Stop Shaming Victims of Sexual Assault for Not Reporting

Stop Shaming Victims of Sexual Assault for Not Reporting, Ten (understandable) reasons why victims of sexual assault do not report

Posted September 23, 2018

At Psychologytoday.com

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-compassion-chronicles/201809/stop-shaming-victims-sexual-assault-not-reporting

My Body! What I Say Goes!

My Body! What I Say Goes!: A book to empower and teach children about personal body safety, feelings, safe and unsafe touch, private parts, secrets and surprises, consent, and respectful relationships.

By Jayneen Sanders (Author), Anna Hancock (Illustrator) (2016)

Age Range: 3 – 10 years, Grade Level: Preschool – 4

From Amazon.com: “The crucial skills taught in this book will help children to protect their bodies from inappropriate touch. Children will be empowered to say in a strong and clear voice, “This is my body! What I say goes!” Through age-appropriate illustrations and engaging text this book, written by the author of ‘No Means No!’ and ‘Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’, will teach children the following crucial and empowering skills in personal body safety: • identifying safe and unsafe feelings • recognizing early warning signs • developing a safety network • using the correct names for private parts • understanding the difference safe and unsafe touch • understanding the difference between secrets and surprises • respecting body boundaries. Approximately 20% of girls, and 8% of boys will experience sexual abuse before their 18th birthday (Pereda, et al, 2009). Parents, caregivers, and educators have a duty of care to protect children by teaching them Body Safety skills. These skills empower children, and go a long way in keeping them safe from abuse – ensuring they grow up as assertive and confident teenagers and adults. Also included in this book are in-depth Discussion Questions to further enhance the learning and to initiate important family conversations around body autonomy.”

Fawn’s Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused

Look inside this book.
Fawn's Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused (Help for Sexually Abused Children Book 1) by [Wohl, Agnes, Wineman Marcus, Irene]

Fawn’s Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused (Help for Sexually Abused Children), by Agnes Wohl, LCSW, Irene Wineman Marcus, & Jackie Bluzer (Illustrator). (2018).

From Amazon.com: “Introduction to Parents, School Personnel and Psychotherapists: There are many books aimed at the prevention of sexual abuse; few story books are geared for children that deal with the profound emotional aftermath. This book is unique because it offers the use of engaging animal protagonists, which allows the child to work through painful emotions in a less threatening and more effective manner. Among the most universal issues for the sexually abused child are: the mixed feelings toward the abuser, the dread and wish to be loved, the difficulties of disclosing the abuse, the fear of being blamed and/or of not being believed. The effects frequently culminate in a sense of vulnerability, damaged self-esteem, guilt and faulty defenses against the feelings of being hurt. This can lead to a wide range of self-destructive behavior in childhood and adulthood. This gentle, “child friendly”, animal tale provides children with a story they can listen to again and again. Parents, psychotherapists and school professionals can use this book as a point of entry into complex feelings that the youngster, or any sexually abused person might experience. Our hope is that with the help of this book, the child will begin the process of healing and gradual resumption of his or her healthy psychological development.”

A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused

Look inside this book.
Fawn's Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused (Help for Sexually Abused Children Book 1) by [Wohl, Agnes, Wineman Marcus, Irene]

Fawn’s Touching Tale: A Story for Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused (Help for Sexually Abused Children)

By Agnes Wohl, LCSW (Author), Irene Wineman Marcus (Author), Jackie Bluzer (Illustrator)

May 26, 2018

From Amazon.com: Introduction to Parents, School Personnel and Psychotherapists: There are many books aimed at the prevention of sexual abuse; few story books are geared for children that deal with the profound emotional aftermath. This book is unique because it offers the use of engaging animal protagonists, which allows the child to work through painful emotions in a less threatening and more effective manner. Among the most universal issues for the sexually abused child are: the mixed feelings toward the abuser, the dread and wish to be loved, the difficulties of disclosing the abuse, the fear of being blamed and/or of not being believed. The effects frequently culminate in a sense of vulnerability, damaged self-esteem, guilt and faulty defenses against the feelings of being hurt. This can lead to a wide range of self-destructive behavior in childhood and adulthood. This gentle, “child friendly”, animal tale provides children with a story they can listen to again and again. Parents, psychotherapists and school professionals can use this book as a point of entry into complex feelings that the youngster, or any sexually abused person might experience. Our hope is that with the help of this book, the child will begin the process of healing and gradual resumption of his or her healthy psychological development.

From Hurt To Healing – Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

From Hurt To Healing – Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Brave stories from three men who were assaulted and abused, physically, verbally, and sexually. This will change what you think about sexual assault and abuse.

October 2, 2014

By Jasmin Newman

At Goodmenproject.com

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/from-hurt-to-healing-male-survivors-of-sexual-abuse-dg/

Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you.

By Joe Kort, PhD,  Understanding the Erotic Code

August 11, 2017

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/201708/sexual-disorientation-male-sexual-abuse-survivors

Dealing with Sexual Trauma Flashbacks

Dealing with Sexual Trauma Flashbacks

HLN

Published December 3, 2012

https://youtu.be/liMrF0x7gII

On Tuesday night, HLN’s Dr. Drew heard from a caller who said she was molested at a very early age and often has flashbacks of it. For more information please visit

http://www.hlntv.com/video/2012/06/12/dealing-sexual-trauma-flashbacks/

What Happens to a Child After He-She Suffers Sexual Abuse?

What Happens to a Child After He-She Suffers Sexual Abuse?

Lewis University

Published January 6, 2015

https://youtu.be/KpzqkOYDgTU

Sexual abuse in childhood has serious and lasting psychological consequences. Long term psychological correlates of childhood sexual abuse include depression, suicidal tendencies, sexual dysfunction, self-mutilation, chronic anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, dissociation and memory impairment. Dr. Natalia Tapia, assistant professor of Justice, Law and Public Safety Studies at Lewis University, is the author of “Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse and Predictors of Adult Re-victimization in the United States: A Forward Logistic Regression Analysis” in the International Journal of Criminal Justice Sciences. https://www.lewisu.edu/academics/jlps…

https://www.lewisu.edu/academics/jlpss/index.htm

How Childhood Trauma Can Make You A Sick Adult

How Childhood Trauma Can Make You A Sick Adult

https://youtu.be/y3cCAcGeG8E

Big Think

Published on Oct 11, 2015

Big Think and the Mental Health Channel are proud to launch Big Thinkers on Mental Health, a new series dedicated to open discussion of anxiety, depression, and the many other psychological disorders that affect millions worldwide. The Adverse Childhood Study found that survivors of childhood trauma are up to 5000% more likely to attempt suicide, have eating disorders or become IV drug users. Dr. Vincent Felitti, the study’s founder, details this remarkable and powerful connection. Learn more at the Mental Health Channel: http://mentalhealthchannel.tv/show/bi… Read more at BigThink.com: http://bigthink.com/videos/vincent-fe… Follow Big Think here: YouTube: http://goo.gl/CPTsV5 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BigThinkdotcom Twitter: https://twitter.com/bigthink Transcript – What we found in the ACE study involving seventeen and a half thousand middle-class adults was that life experiences in childhood that are lost in time and then further protected by shame and by secrecy and by social taboos against inquiry into certain realms of human experience—that those life experiences play out powerfully and proportionately a half century later, in terms of emotional state, in terms of biomedical disease, in terms of life expectancy. In 1985, I first became interested in developmental life experiences in early childhood really by accident. In the major obesity program we were running, a young woman came into the program. She was twenty-eight years old, and weighed 408 pounds, and asked us if we could help her with her problem. And in fifty-one weeks, we took her from 408 to 132. And we thought, well my god, we’ve got this problem licked. This is going to be a world-famous department here! She maintained her weight at 132 for several weeks, and then in one three-week period regained 37 pounds in three weeks, which I had not previously conceived as being physiologically possible. That was triggered by being sexually propositioned at work by a much older man, as she described him. And in short order, she was back over 400 pounds faster than she had lost the weight. I remember asking her why the extreme response. After initially claiming not to have any understanding of why the extreme response, ultimately she told me of a lengthy incest history with her grandfather, from age 10 to age 21. Ultimately it turned out that fifty-five percent of the people in our obesity program acknowledged a history of childhood sexual abuse. I mean, that obviously is not the only issue going on, but it was where we began. And as we went down that trail, then we discovered other forms of abuse, also growing up in massively dysfunctional households, et cetera. The ACE study was really designed to see whether these things existed at all in the general population, and if so, how did they play out over time? Read Full Transcript Here: (http://goo.gl/F7vNgV).