Category: Books

The Survivor’s Guide to Sex

The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse, by Staci Haines (1999)

From Amazon.com: “Move over abuse, and move in pleasure! The Survivor’s Guide to Sex is for all women—heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, partnered, and single—who want to delight in their own sexuality. Based on the author’s extensive training and experience in working with abuse survivors, The Survivor’s Guide to Sex offers a complete guide to sexual recovery:

* Pleasure and Desire—How to discover and fully own your desires on your own terms.
* Nonjudgmental support for all sexual styles and interests!
* Dissociation—Discover how you “checked out” to survive and how you can “check in” now for healing and your own sexual expression.
* Embodied Sex—No more grocery lists and wrestling matches with relics of the past! Learn how to be in your body during sex, present for yourself and your partners.
* Consent and Boundaries—The “yes,” “no,” and “maybe” of sex. How to say “yes” to your desires and develop boundaries to take care of yourself.
* Triggers—A sex life built around triggers becomes no sex life at all. Practical tools for healing through triggers while enjoying all the delights and complexities of a fully-embodied sex life.
* Sex Information—Chock full of sex-positive information on all aspects of sexual response, masturbation, and partner sex, tailored to the needs of survivors.
* Emotional Healing and Intimacy—Don’t settle for less than you want! Grant yourself permission to cultivate pleasure, sexual delight, and love.
* Plus Sex Guide Exercises, bibliography, resources, and index.”

Silent Rage: African American Boys and Sexual Abuse

Silent Rage: African American Boys and Sexual Abuse, by Dr. Gabrie’l J. Atchison, Jae Quinlan (Illustrator) (2010).

Silent Rage is an unprecedented exploration of Black boys and sexual abuse. Because being vulnerable is antithetical to cultural definitions of Black manhood, many boys choose to suffer in silence. The silence leads to self-destructive behaviors impacting families and communities. Based on a review of literature provided by therapists and Black male survivors, Silent Rage provides information, resources and hope for male survivors. In addition to survivors, partners and wives of survivors, parents and foster parents, social workers and students within Nursing, Social Work and African American Studies will find this book informative. Cover art “AKOBEN/PROTECT ME” by Jae Quinlan.

When a Man You Love Was Abused

When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman’s Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation, by Cecil Murphey (2010). Kregel Publications

The numbers of males abused in childhood are sometimes listed as low as 5 percent or as high as 33 percent. Though statistics are controversial, no one disputes the fact that childhood abuse is a continuing problem―or that such abuse can have devastating effects on future relationships. For all women who know and love a survivor of sexual assault, best-selling author Cecil Murphey has penned an honest and forthright book about surviving―and thriving―despite past abuses.

Both informative and highly practical, Murphey helps women understand the continuing problems that abuse survivors may encounter, including hurtful memories, issues of self worth, and the need to feel in control. With sensitivity and encouragement, Murphey then explains what women can do to help bring about healing and forgiveness. Written with the empathy that only a true survivor can convey, When a Man You Love Was Abused is a timely piece of advice and encouragement.

Find out more at www.menshatteringthesilence.blogspot.com

Feeling Loved: The Science of Nurturing Meaningful Connections and Building Lasting Happiness

Feeling Loved: The Science of Nurturing Meaningful Connections and Building Lasting Happiness, by Jeanne Segal, PhD. (2015)

Do your connections with friends, family, or romantic partners leave you feeling empty? Feeling Loved reframes the way we think, feel, and act, and provides a blueprint for attracting nurturing and fulfilling love. The book explores what we unwittingly do that hijacks our ability to feel loved and goes on to offer powerful researched-based tools to transform your relationships and emotional health.

In Feeling Loved, you will learn how to:

Identify the challenges that keep you from experiencing love and making others feel loved

Use proven techniques to quickly reduce stress and regulate out-of-control emotions

Transform your relationships with everyone in your life

Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., is a psychologist, author, and co-founder of the groundbreaking mental health website, Helpguide.org. For 40 years, she has been an innovator in the fields of emotional intelligence, holistic health, attachment, stress reduction, and relationships. In addition toFeeling Loved, she has written five other books, which have been published in 13 languages.

Segal makes new inroads into the science of relationships and explores the transformative power of nonverbal, face-to-face exchanges. Filled with inspirational, real-life stories, Feeling Loved provides a roadmap for getting the love and happiness we need.

Rescuing Your Teenager from Depression

Rescuing Your Teenager from Depression, by Norman T. Berlinger, MD. (2006)

Dr. Norman T. Berlinger initially missed the signs of his own son’s depression. But by drawing on his love for his son, as well as his skills and training as a doctor, he developed a set of techniques to help lead his son out of depression. In this book, he offers 10 Parental Partnering Strategies based on his own experiences and on interviews with parents of depressed teens and mental health professionals. Dr. Berlinger’s tips will help concerned parents differentiate true depression from moodiness, be alert to suicide risks, monitor medication effectiveness, and spot signs of relapse.

One in eight teens is depressed, but Rescuing Your Teenager from Depression shows that there are ways parents can help.

Don’t let your child become another statistic — read this book.