At American Addiction Centers.org
https://americanaddictioncenters.org/alcoholism-treatment/family-marital-problems/
By David M. Allen, MD (author) & Susan Heitler, PhD (Foreword) (2018)
From Amazon.com: “Do you have a parent who is invalidating, critical, demanding, or hateful? In this important and much-needed guide, you’ll learn how to set boundaries; uncover the hidden motives behind your parent’s behavior; put a stop to repetitive, hurtful interactions; and foster healthier relationships.
There’s no sugarcoating it—if you grew up with a parent who made you feel invalidated or unloved as a child, your pain is very real. In some cases, you may decide that you want to remove this parent from your life, and that is a valid choice. But for many people, dealing with a problem parent becomes a necessary part of life, for whatever reason. If you’re one of these people, this book can help.
Written by a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, Coping with Critical, Demanding, and Dysfunctional Parents will help you develop unique assertiveness strategies based on the characteristics of your own family dynamics. You’ll learn powerful communication skills to help you build boundaries and put a stop to your parent’s hurtful behavior. And, most importantly, you’ll learn to advocate for your own needs.
If you’ve “had it up to here” with a parent who makes you feel as though you’re just not good enough, this invaluable guide can help you put an end to toxic interactions while maintaining peace in your family.”
By Sharon Martin, LCSW
~ 5 min read
At Blogs.Psychcentral.com
Depression and anxiety may precede the onset of disease in offspring. The children of 28 schizophrenic women showed that 89 percent of the children displayed symptoms of at least one mental health disorder.
By Jason Williams, May 1, 2003 – last reviewed June 9, 2016
At Psychologytoday.com
Skipping Stones (Ripple Effects of Mental Illness on the Family) 2nd ed. Edition
By Mona Wasow, Italian Social Worker. (2002)
FromAmazon.com: “When someone has a severe mental illness (SMI), what’s it like for the rest of the family? How can professionals benefit
Hidden Victims Hidden Healers: An Eight-Stage Healing Process For Families And Friends Of The Mentally Ill, 2nd Edition
By Julie Tallard Johnson, MSW, LICSW. (2007).
From Amazon.com: “The impetus of this book began with a personal search of mine for support groups for families of those with mental illness. I had a brother with Schizophrenia. I was also finishing up my graduate degree in Social Work (back in 1982). What these groups for families of the mentally ill “supported” concerned me. What I typically found were dysfunctional groups supporting negative and even hostile mindsets. Most of them encouraged a victim mentality to the surrounding culture and to the mental illness. When I considered using other group processes such as the 12 Steps, it didn’t convert well enough to help family members struggling with a loved one’s persistent and chronic mental illness. I also recognized that mental illness happens within the context of a family – not just the individual. Too often these groups focused on the mentally ill person at the expense of the family’s over-all own mental health and the health of other family members. I discovered in my research that how the family responds to the mental illness will either be part of the antidote or continued problem. In any give difficulty we are either part of the problem or part of the solution. I intended to offer a means for family members and friends to be part of a solution. Furthermore, families and their individual members are all personally affected by the disruption and difficulties brought on through living with mental illness. Those living with mental illness secondarily through a loved one also needed an aggressive healing path to help them live with (and sometimes beyond) the mental illness. So, I developed the Eight Stage Healing Process. My combined personal and professional experiences contributed to the chosen Stages. Furthermore, I researched what works and what doesn’t work in such support groups. When securing a publisher for the book I insisted that “coping” be left out of the title. Everyone is coping – the Eight Stages takes one beyond just coping with mental illness and the surrounding family dynamics and helps individuals and families heal. Twenty years later I still find, along with thousands of other family members that the Eight Stages is an authentic healing process that benefits all family members. The Eight Stages are; Stage One: Stage Two: Stage Three: Stage Four: Stage Five: Stage Six: Stage Seven: Stage Eight: The Eight Stages can be used individually or within a group context. If in a group, I have available the Facilitator’s Manual to use as a guide: Title here. Now the Eight Stages is the most used program for families in Australia and used throughout Canada and the United States.”
When Madness Comes Home: Help and Hope for Families of the Mentally Ill
by Victoria Secunda. (1998).
From Amazon.com: “The acclaimed author of “When You and Your Mother Can’t Be Friends” knows mental illness firsthand. Her painful, personal experience has served as the genesis for this book, a groundbreaking exploration of the effects which mental illness wreaks on the family.”
Never Have Your Dog Stuffed: And Other Things I’ve Learned
By Alan Alda. (2006)
From Amazon.com: “He’s one of America’s most recognizable and
acclaimed actors–a star on Broadway, an Oscar nominee for The Aviator, and the
only person to ever win Emmys for acting, writing, and directing, during his
eleven years on M*A*S*H. Now Alan Alda has written a memoir as elegant, funny,
and affecting as his greatest performances.
“My mother didn’t try to stab my father until I was six,”
begins Alda’s irresistible story. The son of a popular actor and a loving but
mentally ill mother, he spent his early childhood backstage in the erotic and
comic world of burlesque and went on, after early struggles, to achieve
extraordinary success in his profession.
Yet Never Have Your Dog Stuffed is not a memoir of show-business ups and downs. It is a
moving and funny story of a boy growing into a man who then realizes he has
only just begun to grow.
It is the story of turning points in Alda’s life, events that
would make him what he is–if only he could survive them.
From the moment as a boy when his dead dog is returned from
the taxidermist’s shop with a hideous expression on his face, and he learns
that death can’t be undone, to the decades-long effort to find compassion for
the mother he lived with but never knew, to his acceptance of his father, both
personally and professionally, Alda learns the hard way that change,
uncertainty, and transformation are what life is made of, and true happiness is
found in embracing them.
Never
Have Your Dog Stuffed, filled with
curiosity about nature, good humor, and honesty, is the crowning achievement of
an actor, author, and director, but surprisingly, it is the story of a life
more filled with turbulence and laughter than any Alda has ever played on the
stage or screen.”
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The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Revised Edition
by Alice Miller, PhD. (2007)
From Amazon.com: “The bestselling book on childhood trauma and the enduring effects of repressed anger and pain.Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided millions of readers with an answer–and has helped them to apply it to their own lives. Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents’ expectations and win their “love.” Alice Miller writes, “When I used the word ‘gifted’ in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb…. Without this ‘gift’ offered us by nature, we would not have survived.” But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.”
My Parent’s Keeper: Adult Children of the Emotionally Ill
by Eva Brown, LCSW. (1989).
From Amazon.com: “Eva Marian Brown, LCSW, is a psychotherapist practicing in Oakland, CA. In her general practice she provides individuals, couples, … “
15 Signs You Have Toxic Parents
By Sharon Martin, LCSW
~ 3 min read
Another Chance: Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family, by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse. (1989)
From Amazon.com: “The second edition of this classic work on recovery for alcohol families updates and expands the original, which won a Marty Mann Award as an outstanding contribution on alcohol communications. The first ten chapters of Another Chance pull the curtain back on the alcoholic family. We meet its cast of characters: the Dependent, the Enabler, the Hero, the Scapegoat, the Lost Child, the Mascot. The author then spells out a treatment plan for halting the downward spiral of alcoholism — a powerful blend of the Twelve Steps pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous, the Family Reconstruction process developed by Virginia Satir, Wegscheider-Cruse’s innovative and eclectic approach to therapy, and her own recovery from co-dependency. The second edition also addresses adult children of alcoholics, spirituality, and co-dependent therapists.”