Month: May 2018

Boundaries and Relationships

Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self

By Charles L. Whitfield, MD. (1994)

From Amazon.com: “More than personal boundaries, this book is really about relationships–healthy and unhealthy ones. Here bestselling author and psychotherapist Charles Whitfield blends theories and dynamics from several disciplines into practical knowledge and actions that your can use in your relationships right now.

This comprehensive book opens with clear definitions and descriptions of boundaries, a self-assessment survey and a history of our accumulated knowledge. Going deeper, it describes the 10 essential areas of human interaction wherein you can improve your relationships. These include age regression, giving and receiving (projection and projective identification), triangles, core recovery issues, basic dynamics, unfinished business and spirituality. It shows in countless practical ways how knowledge of each of these is most useful in your recovery and everyday life.”

Beating the Devil Out of Them

Beating the Devil Out of Them: Corporal Punishment in American Families and Its Effects on Children 

by Murray A. Straus  (Author, Introduction), Denise A. Donnelly (Author)

Transaction Publishers (2001)

From Amazon.com: “Based on his studies of over 9,000 families, Murray A. Straus, the foremost researcher on family violence in the world, discusses the extent to which parents in the United States use corporal punishment (such as spanking and slapping) and its effects on their chil­dren. The question of whether corporal punishment is an effective method of discipline is hotly debated. Straus contends that this believed-to-be-“minor” form of physical violence is precursor to much violence that plagues our world. Children who are spanked quickly learn that love and violence can go hand in hand. Since spanking is generally done by loving, caring parents—for the child’s own good—a child can learn that hitting is “morally right.” Straus describes what he has learned through two decades of research: children who are spanked are from two to six times more likely to be physically aggressive, to become juvenile delinquents, and later, as adults, to use physical violence against their spouses, to have sadomasochistic tendencies, and to suffer from depression. Straus alerts parents to these risks, and argues that spanking adversely affects not only the children who are subjected to it but society as a whole. This groundbreaking book, now available in paperback with a substantive new introduction and new concluding chapter, is essential reading for parents as well as teachers, lawyers, and judges. Professionals in fields such as social work, child protection, delin­quency and criminology, psychology, and politics will find it of critical importance.”