I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, by Terrence Real. (1999)
From Amazon.com: “A revolutionary and hopeful look at
depression as a silent epidemic in men that manifests as workaholism,
alcoholism, rage, difficulty with intimacy, and abusive behavior by the
cofounder of Harvard’s Gender Research Project.
Twenty years of experience treating men and their families
has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent
epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and
themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we
think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism,
abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these
escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to
their children.
This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness”
that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their
pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He
mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his
own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and
the father of two young sons.”