Taken From:
1983. Givens, David B., Ph.D., Love Signals: How To Attract A Mate. Pinnacle Books: New York.
Purdue University
Fundamentals of Speech (Public Speaking)
Com 114, November 1, 1988
Grade: 93%
Teacher comments: Good relationship with an audience, very nicely done
Flirting: An Anthropological Look
SPECIFIC PURPOSE STATEMENT
To inform the audience about courtship behaviors.
THESIS STATEMENT
Courtship behaviors are instinctive, initially nonverbal, and mandate conversation before touching.
BODY
I. Courtship behaviors are instinctive.
A. Our brains are pre-wired with all the courtship cues that we need.
B. Thought and mating centers are on different neurological floors.
1. Defies reason
2. Nuclear physics and flirt
3. Nonverbal cues better
C. Courtship is slow, cautious and gentle in all human groups.
1. Myth of caveman
2. Wolf spider
II. Courtship behaviors are initially nonverbal.
A. The main goal initially is to establish harmlessness.
1. Stranger fear
2. Shrug vs. military shoulders
3. Head tilt
4. Unfolding
5. O.K. to scratch
6. Casts
7. Men armless and strong
B. There are signs we can look for to see if someone is attracted to us.
1. Pupil dilation and eye blink rate
2. 3 second gaze
3. Forward lean
4. Body alignment with reach out
5. Smile closed or Jimmy Carter
6. Female intuition
III. Courtship behaviors mandate conversation before touching.
A. Conversation with a potential sex partner not only puts you on the line, it hangs you over the edge.
1. Secret not to threaten
2. Soft voice (cuddle response)
3. Where is the bathroom
4. Shared focus
5. Share food (vulnerability)
6. Be yourself
7. Show meekness
B. Touching has deeper meaning than speech and leads to the end of courtship, which is intercourse.
1. First-touch accident
2. Body extension
3. Hugs (security and comfort)
4. Females make love to get hugs and males give hugs to make love.
5. Kissing childlike feelings
6. Touch faces
7. Prolonged kissing auto pilot
8. Making love ends